You must not marry a man just because he treats you well, you will regret it

not marry a man just because he treats you well

The reason why I want to write about this topic today is because a good friend of mine divorced.

1 You must not marry a man just because he treats you well, you will regret it

She and her ex-husband married quickly when she just graduated.

The two had known each other for two years before they got married.

My friend’s ex-husband did not go to university, his job was unstable, and he changed jobs every other day.

It is precisely because of this that the people around us, including the parents of our friends, also strongly opposed it.

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However, the friend just didn’t listen, she just wanted to marry him.

I originally thought that life after marriage would be very happy, but she didn’t expect that after her marriage, her ex-husband would not go out to work for a long time, and began to become lazy. He often went out to play cards with his friends, dreaming of getting rich overnight.

The results of it?

The man owed a lot of debts, and his temper became more and more grumpy.

After negotiating with her ex-husband for a long time, the friend chose to divorce. Fortunately, they still have no children. The divorce process is fairly easy and easy, and there is no need to entangle too much.

I was curious and asked why she chose the other party in the first place?

The friend shook his head and said helplessly: “He treated me very well when he was in love. I didn’t expect it would become like this later.”

At the end of the chat, a friend said that she wanted to live alone now, carefree, making money and spending on her own, without worrying about anything.

It is very important for a boy to treat you well. But you must not marry him just because he is nice to you.

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For you, there is a time limit.

 

2 You have to learn to be nice to yourself

 

I never think that in this long life, there will be someone who can always treat you well and never leave.

There may be, but the probability is too small, don’t bet easily, it will be miserable if you lose.

I don’t know if you still remember the incident that attracted great attention on the Internet in October last year: a 28-year-old girl from Nanchang was killed by her fiance and thrown a corpse into a fish pond.

Little Yi, a girl, was killed by her fiance a few days before getting married.

As for the marriage between her and her fiance, her friends and family members expressed their opposition.

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Because her fiance is unstable in work, good at lying, not aggressive, not self-motivated, and very lazy.

It stands to reason that such a boy, shouldn’t any girl like it?

However, Xiao Yi chose him.

The reason she likes him is because the boys are kind to her and are reluctant to leave.

As a result, it became a tragedy.

When you are in a relationship, you can make him treat you well, but when you get married, you can’t just consider “good to you”, but you also need to consider many other factors.

For example: character.

To be honest, it is better to treat yourself better than to expect others to treat you well.

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3 You must have a conversation before getting married

 

I have always advocated that many young couples must have an in-depth conversation before getting married.

The two had a good chat, their views on marriage, future work plans, expectations for life, understanding of family, and how to face potential conflicts in the future.

These questions are a hundred times more important than the option “He treats you well”.

What is marriage?

Marriage is two people working together to create life on a certain material basis.

Material is the foundation of everything. If the other party doesn’t even have a job that can make ends meet, what can you live on?

Marriage is not a turmoil, but a long feather.

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After ten years of marriage, the passion has completely faded, and most couples have become “brothers.”

At this time, the family must be sustained by materials, character, and the sense of responsibility of both parties.

If a person is lazy, has no sense of responsibility, has a bad temper, and has no plans for his own work, then even if he treats you well now, your future will be like a mirage and illusory.

So, don’t be dazzled by a person’s kindness to you. Learn more about his philosophy of life, look at his attitude towards work, and ask more about his hobbies.

I strongly advocate for couples who want to enter marriage to cultivate a common hobby together.

For example: reading, financial management.

Let this hobby become your secret weapon to resist this long marriage together.

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4 This man treats you well is just the basis for falling in love

In a relationship, being kind to you is the most basic.

However, this high probability will gradually fade over time.

The last thing left is the essence of life.

So, when you choose your marriage partner, you must not just look at how well he treats you.

Being good to you is not enough. He also needs to be responsible, willing to make changes in order to give you a better life, not to be discouraged in the face of difficulties, to be able to withstand all kinds of temptations from the outside world, and live steadily.

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These are the most important.

Finally, I hope everyone can meet that person who is willing to spend their entire life with you to manage a dull marriage.

I originally wanted to use the term “good marriage”, but thinking about it, the requirements are too high. I don’t want to be beautiful, just plain enough.

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